Tips on How to Control Your Love or Intense Emotion to Avoid Blushing

Emotions make our life more interesting and colorful. It is important in our life. However, too much emotion is unhealthy. Love, friendship, and intimacy involve emotions which may sometimes become uncontrollable if not dealt with properly. It is a great feeling of falling in love, being in a relationship, or encountering intense emotions wherein you would like to express it in a proper manner. However, there may be times wherein you cannot control these feelings and end up breaking relationships. Many people feel that controlling emotions is a difficult thing to do. In fact, it is just a matter of habit. The more you do it, the easier it becomes. Gradually, controlling emotions becomes natural.

Firstly, stay calm. Enjoy the fun, friendship, love, and intimacy with significant people around you. Feel safe and secure. Realize that the people you spend time with have safe territory. Regularly give and receive quality attention. Feel a sense of influence and control over their life. Feel part of a wider community. Validate both the physical pain and the emotional reaction. It will help you understand that it is okay to feel that way.

Life must be enjoyed so don’t take it too seriously. Have fun. Life is too short so make the most out of it. Live, laugh, love, and express it. To give you better ways in dealing with anxiety, controlling emotions, and blushing, Jim Baker invites you to read his book, Blushing Breakthrough. It provides self-help techniques to stop blushing problems.

Workout: 5 Tips for Intense Physical Training

Don't plug away at the elliptical machine or treadmill for 60 minutes. Don't do the same lifting routine for weeks on end with little progress.
Utilize these 5 tips for intense physical training to ignite your bodies growth cycle and infuse some variety into your stale workout.
These tips are drawn from tried and true methods including High Intensity Interval Training (HIIT), the Tabata Method, and military style training.

Photo by Cronfield (flickr.com/photos/haurum)

Keep In Mind

Your body requires training variety to sustain growth and development. So, it is important to constantly change your work outs to keep your body guessing.
High intensity training, like all things, should be done in moderation. You don't want to end up over training or getting injured.

Intense training can save you time. Instead of doing 60 minutes of cardio you can do 20 minutes at a higher intensity level to achieve the same, or even better, results.

Photo by PFC David Thompson (flickr.com/photos/dvids) 

The 5 Tips

TIP #1: Jump rope before, during and after you workout.
To warm up do three sets of 30-seconds with 30-seconds of rest between sets. Then jump rope for 15-seconds between each set of your weight lifting routine. After you are done with your workout finish off with three sets of 30-seconds just like the warmup.

TIP #2: Use the Tabata Method.
Pick at least one exercise, or even one workout day, and utilize the Tabata Method. We'll use bench press as our example, but you can use it with any exercise. Pick a weight you can lift continuously for 30-seconds. Meaning you're doing as many reps as possible in 30-seconds.

The sets are as follows: 30-second intervals, followed by 20-seconds of rest. Repeat for a total of 8 cycles.

TIP #3: Sprint intervals on treadmill or track.
After warming up for about 5-10 minutes, sprint for 15-30 seconds followed by a 2-minute light jog to recover. Repeat this 5 times.

TIP #4: Learn to crawl.
Mark off two points, perhaps 10 yards on a football field or two lines on a basketball court. Then crab walk from point A to point B and bear crawl from B to A.

TIP #5: Incorporate plyometrics.
Explosive movements are preferred, things like squat jumps, clap push-ups, box jumps, split squat jumps are a few examples. Do these in timed intervals - 30-seconds with 45-seconds rest. 

 

How to be intense

How difficult it is to be close to intense people, and why?
I think intensity can be threatening all by itself — subconsciously — we seem to prefer to have an equilibrium of energy, perhaps. Exuberance, passion, fierceness, depth… can rock the boat without meaning to.

But I think the bigger problem with intensity is its tendency to be sharp-edged and hard. An intense person who is unrealistic, or demanding, or spilling out of boundaries, is uncomfortable to be with.

Hence I was thinking about a phrase, “well-oiled intensity,” which sounds a bit like something you’d see in an ad, which got me thinking about “Smoothing Lotion (for well-oiled intensity),” and then about “Friend Repellant,” and how using the one could eliminate the need for the other…

Perhaps it is possible to be intense without bowling other people over with it — not that intense people do that on purpose. Perhaps with practice of such things as mindfulness, radical acceptance, and faith, we can smooth the rough pointy edges and be felt as peaceful and peace-giving.

The “quiet and gentle spirit” urged for women in one of the New Testament letters doesn’t equate to lack of feeling, blandness, composure, having one’s act together, never having anything to say, or even never being boisterous. I think it’s much more getting at this idea of being well-oiled and smoothed.

I want to be smoothed in such a way — not to have all my intensity erased into oblivion, but to have that intensity well-oiled, the rough sharpness smoothed, soothed, shined.

Managing Intense Feelings

After injury, survivors and their family members often experience a variety of strong emotions. Many people describe feeling frustrated, angry, or sad about changes following the injury. Others talk about feeling worried or scared about what will happen in the future. Some people notice that their emotions change quickly, “like a roller coaster.” Feeling misunderstood is also common. Strong emotions can weaken your ability to solve problems, handle challenges effectively, and get along with others.
Recognizing, understanding, and controlling your feelings can be very difficult. The first step in controlling your emotions is recognizing how you feel and noticing when your emotions get in the way. If you can figure out how you’re feeling early on, you can get your feelings under control faster and more easily. Then you’ll be able to feel better and reach your goals more efficiently.
Take a moment to think about how you feel. On the list below, mark the sentences that describe you:

• I often feel frustrated.
• I get angry easily.
• I can’t do much to make things better.
• I don’t like much about myself.
• I worry a lot.
• I have made many mistakes.
• I worry about the future.
• I’m lonely.
• I believe I am at fault for many of our problems.
• I feel sad.
• People don’t understand me.
• I feel overwhelmed.
• My feelings change from minute to minute.
• I get upset easily.
• Very few people care about me.
• I have many fears.
• I feel like I should be doing more.
• I’m disappointed in myself.
• I wish my life could be the way it was before.
• I am often grouchy.

Review the items you’ve checked and the ones you haven’t to better understand your feelings. The more items you’ve checked, the more likely it is that you are experiencing many different and strong emotions. Is there a pattern to the items you’ve checked? Show your checklist to someone you know and trust. Do you agree on the items that should be checked?
Once you recognize how you feel, you can take steps to help yourself cope with the emotions effectively. We’ve talked to lots of survivors and their families to find out ways they cope with strong feelings. Here are a few strategies that have worked for other people. Look over this list with trusted family, friends, or professionals and pick out which ones you think will work for you and your family:

• Remember that ups and downs are normal parts of life. Realize that your feelings are a common, normal response to your experience. Try to look forward to the ups!
• Remember that you have the power to control your emotions. You can choose to change the way you feel and the way you react. Your ability to control strong emotions will get better with practice.
• Stop the cycle before your emotions get too intense. Watch out for early warning signs of intense emotions. It’s harder to calm down once they get out of control.
• Be hopeful and positive. Say positive things to yourself and others (e.g., “I will make it through this,” “I’m trying my hardest,” “I’m a good person”). Remember that persistence is the best way to solve your problems and avoid failure. Try to keep a good sense of humor.
• Count your blessings. Think about things you are thankful for. Recognize positive feelings, good things about yourself, and changes for the better.
• If you can’t do something to make the situation better, don’t make it worse. Sometimes you may feel like there’s nothing you can do to make the situation better. Try to avoid doing silly things that may make the situation worse. Doing nothing may be better.
• Intense emotions often come in response to stress. Monitor your stress level and take steps to control your stress. Some stress management strategies actually work well for dealing with intense emotions too.
• Avoid thinking too much about your feelings. Instead, focus on positive steps you can take to feel better.
• Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Try to understand other people’s points of view. Think about how they will feel in response to your actions or words. Remember that hurting others won’t make your life better, make people like you, or help you get what you want.
• Don’t say or do the first thing that comes to mind. Take a deep breath. Count to ten. Get into the habit of thinking about what you want to say or do before you say or do it.
• Wait and deal with problems when you are calm. Strong emotions will keep you from thinking clearly. Calm yourself down first — count to 10, take a break, or do something relaxing and fun. Then, think about the consequences and possible ways to solve your problems.
• Remember that nobody can solve all their problems by themselves. Talk to trusted family, friends, and professionals about your feelings and about how they cope with strong emotions. Ask for help when you need it. Doing so will let people know you value their support and offers chances to build relationships.
• Recognize the difficulties and challenges you face, and how hard you are working to make things better. Give yourself credit when you control your emotions and express your feelings in positive ways.

Sometimes people have trouble helping themselves feel better. Often, you can benefit from support and guidance from others. Talk with trusted family, friends, or professionals about your feelings. Also, consider joining a support group, so you can learn from others about how they’ve dealt successfully with similar emotions.

 

INTENSE (adjective)

  The adjective INTENSE has 3 senses:

1. in an extreme degree
2. extremely sharp or intense
3. (of color) having the highest saturation

  Familiarity information: INTENSE used as an adjective is uncommon.

INTENSE (adjective)

Sense 1

Meaning:

In an extreme degree

Context examples:

intense heat / intense anxiety / intense desire / intense emotion / the skunk's intense acrid odor / intense pain / enemy fire was intense

Similar:

main (of force; of the greatest possible intensity)

profound (of the greatest intensity; complete)

raging (very severe)

screaming (so extremely intense as to evoke screams)

severe; terrible; wicked (intensely or extremely bad or unpleasant in degree or quality)

smart (painfully severe)

strong (not faint or feeble)

terrific (very great or intense)

deep; thick ((of darkness) very intense)

unabated (continuing at full strength or intensity)

violent; wild ((of colors or sounds) intensely vivid or loud)

intensive (characterized by a high degree or intensity; often used as a combining form)

intensified (made more intense)

aggravated (made more severe or intense especially in law)

bad; big (very intense)

blood-and-guts (marked by great zeal or violence)

cold (so intense as to be almost uncontrollable)

concentrated (intensely focused)

consuming; overwhelming (very intense)

deep (extreme)

exquisite; keen (intense or sharp)

extreme; utmost; uttermost (of the greatest possible degree or extent or intensity)

fierce; tearing; trigger-happy; vehement; violent (marked by extreme intensity of emotions or convictions; inclined to react violently; fervid)

Also:

immoderate (not within reasonable limits)

profound (showing intellectual penetration or emotional depths; from the depths of your being)

intemperate (excessive in behavior)

Attribute:

degree; grade; level (a position on a scale of intensity or amount or quality)

Antonym:

mild (moderate in type or degree or effect or force; far from extreme)

Sense 2

Meaning:

Extremely sharp or intense

Synonyms:

acute; intense

Context examples:

acute pain / felt acute annoyance / intense itching and burning

Similar:

sharp (keenly and painfully felt; as if caused by a sharp edge or point)

Sense 3

Meaning:

(of color) having the highest saturation

Synonyms:

intense; vivid

Context examples:

vivid green / intense blue

Similar:

pure; saturated ((of color) being chromatically pure; not diluted with white or grey or black)